The body language cues that people register and look for, and judge by can be put into two key categories – warmth (empathy, likeability, caring) and authority (power, credibility, status). And no surprises here ladies, but this article reports that whilst there are some exceptions women triumph in the first, and men in the second. And both groups miss the mark of balancing both.

Some we already know, like we can smile excessively, not too much or use “girly” gestures to calm themselves or others. And rather then telling you to stop that completely, this article explains what to substitute in for a few. For example, rather then letting your voice rise when seeking approval, speak with an authoritative arc to your voice –rising in pitch during the sentence but dropping down to your starting note.