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To everything (turn turn turn) there is a season. What’s your season, right now?

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This song, originally by Pete Seeger and made famous by The Byrds, says it all. If you were a fan of Forest Gump you’ll remember the Byrds version from the movie, but my favorite version for its simplicity and honesty (think Joni Mitchell) is this one by Judy Collins from 1966:

 

I know. It’s been some time since I posted here, not for lack of desire but somehow, it just hasn’t been the season for writing. There’s been so many – too many – thoughts and ideas and priorities pulsing through my veins that it’s taken some time to quiet my mind and harness my energy.

For me it’s been a time to plant, a time to grow. As a person, a professional, and a parent. And that for me has been intensely personal. Too personal to post.

For a person who grew up on the land in the countryside, the great outdoors and the seasons were second nature.  But something happens when you move away to the city, build a professional career and – to a certain extent – lose touch with that reality. And raw emotion. We are conditioned – productively, spiritually and even climatically – to be constant.  To deliver the same, achieve the same all year round. Year in, year out.

But that’s just not reality for complexity of human beings.  To be a happy member of our race we need time to “be”. And that means respecting the seasons of our lives.

The past five years have been an entirely new season for me. Not every day as productive as it once was, at least in ways that are easy to measure. Not every deadline has been met, at least the first time round.  At times I’ve cursed and shouted and sulked.  And other times I’ve just had a quiet chat with myself, willing myself on, to find a way to make things work.  Frustrations have given way to new feelings, new life, new lessons.  Learning the season, and what new possibilities it brings. Maintaining what career momentum I could along the way.

All the while I’ve been grappling with parenthood, wondering how it can be so hard to get it right??  But this year, my son’s transition to big school has been a watershed moment.  I finally feel like I’ve grown into my role as mum.  Sure, school brings new challenges and routines and yes, I admit it, I forgot to pick him up from school one day (he survived!), I’ve forgotten to pack lunch (he loved getting a lunch order!) and I regularly forget which day is sports uniform (I now keep a spare set in his bag).  Still its created the condition for me to find a new level between my BC life, and my plans for the future.

It’s no wonder that I’ve really, really missed parts of my old life.  I was good at it, I knew what I was doing and it was oh-so-easy to control.  Or at least to think I was in control! While some of my work was easy to continue, I’ve definitely missed my regular blogging and the conversations we have here. I know that the time’s been well invested elsewhere in sowing and tending something bigger. But all the while I’ve been waiting for the right conditions and now, I’m back. It’s the season now to refocus my energy, to re-engage with my friends and colleagues and followers, and to create new opportunities in this next phase of my life.

Maybe you’ve had a similar experience while I’ve been gone.  Maybe you’re in a different season of your own right now.  Or planning to start one.

Wherever you’re at, I hope you’ll come along to reconnect and be part of the journey with me!

Turn, turn, turn. Yep, it’s a good time and place to be.

Jen xo

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2 months ago

Jen Dalitz

What are the lessons you’re teaching your kids? We took the opportunity of a holiday long weekend to visit my mum interstate as the timing of the trip coincided with my son’s favourite AFL team battling it out against my mum’s beloved team. Perhaps only those of you with the love for AFL will appreciate why we’d plan a long distance trip around a game of footy, but suffice to say it was a passion project! With every ounce of anticipation, the game was a tough, tight duel and could easily have gone either way. Yet when the final siren sounded, it wasn’t our team that was smiling. It sure is tough for a 10 year old boy to sit within a crowd 41,000+ people all cheering for the opposite side. It was tough for him to see the exhaustion and disappointment on the faces of the players he adores. And yet, it’s so important for him to learn that his team won’t always win. There’s so many lessons in that, but the one I chose to instil is that you won’t always back the team that wins but you’ll always back the team that you love. That’s why I asked him to wear his team colours home the next day, and show his support even when the chips are down. That’s the kind of commitment I want my son to learn and the kind of team player I want him to be. PS. #gotheGiants @GWSGiants #neversurrender ... See MoreSee Less

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4 months ago

Jen Dalitz

I haven’t been here in a while as the writing has been on hold. But I was reminded today that there are things in our life that light us up. That might take us out of our comfort zone but, once you sit with it, bring you both joy and a sense of “I can do this” achievement. These moments are such a gift. So I’m curious, what’s your special thing that lights you up?

Despite (or in spit of) my professional career, these moments for me normally involve my horses. I’ll never be an equestrian Olympian, but I take great pleasure in all the lessons my horses teach me. They remind me that it’s a team effort, we’re in it together, and that if I’m prepared to give a little bit more, they will too. That’s true whether we’re on the ground taking care of their feet, or grooming, or when I’m atop riding as one. Two hearts one team.
It’s hard to describe the adrenaline and joy they bring to my life. But I’d love to know, what lights you up??
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